Warrior Women was born on December 29, 2015. On that day in Chicago, Illinois, on a family vacation, our son, Collin, had a relapse of a health condition that we thought was in remission. The relapse was shockingly powerful. After a short hospitalization, in the privacy of our home, we had to come to grips with what this setback meant for us as a family, and for our son. Our emotions went from fear, to anger, to utter emptiness.
I was especially taken aback by the situation, because I thought for years that I could manipulate everyday life to keep that from happening. When it happened despite my many precautions, I felt devoid of emotion. A week after the event, I noticed that Jesus was sitting next to me in the hole I had dug for myself. He was holding my hand and loving on me through the hurt. At that moment, I trusted Him to show me the situation anew through His eyes. He showed me how He had been right next to me, helping my son, the entire time. Jesus then led me to Psalm three which changed the projectory of my ministry and my life. I learned that Jesus can use a miserable experience to create a deeper, more powerful impact on our lives and the lives of those around us.
That one moment spawned a book called, Warrior Women, and the book spawned a ministry. That ministry, Warrior Women, is devoted to helping women use a damaging moment in their lives, which we call a “David Moment,” to propel us to dig deeper in the Lord, become more powerful through the Holy Spirit, and positively affect the world around us.
Gracious Marriage Resources began in 1990. We were a part of a small group of couples who were taking each other through our premarital counselling. At that time, pre-marital preparedness often simply included a couple of meetings with a pastor. All six couples had our meetings with our perspective pastors, but wanted more. So, we found a marriage Bible study and worked through it together. One by one, we each got married and thirty years later, we are all still married.
When the study was finished, my wife and I wanted to get involved in marriage ministry. One of the couples was the city ministry director for an upcoming national marriage conference to be held in our home city. We were asked to lead the marketing efforts, and did so.
That original conference gave us an unquenchable hunger to help couples live their best life. In 1992 we became the city ministry directors for the same conference. Since then, we have led marriage ministries in small and large churches, we have written two books (The Gracious Marriage, a Marriage Curriculum, and ThoughFULLS, 100 date Night Discussion Starters) and prepared hundreds of couples for the second most important decision of their lives. The core of our ministry is still at the same place it started, helping pre-married couples embark on the second greatest adventure of their lives.